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Treat Everyone Differently


“I wish my wife was more like you” his remark should have made me feel good but I felt angry. “Why would be she like, she is her and I am sure she would be wonderful in her own way”
 Men have a certain image of a perfect woman in their minds. Well in a way all of us have image of a good person, which includes certain qualities and at sometimes we fail to look beyond them.
I have this lady in my neighborhood who appeared to be rude and arrogant. Her appearance made her repulsive and people restrained from talking to her. But I had my doubts because when I looked at her kids, their mannerism told me a different story. The story of a good upbringing. The lady would not talk to me at first but I befriended her and found a wonderful human who knew how she appeared to others and she felt sorry for that too. I realized that the hardships she had gone through had made her like that but slowly I saw a change. She started to smile more, stop for a chat here and there looked happier. I knew somewhere I had done some good for her. I did nothing actually- she always had been a nice and warm person, she just needed to vent out her hardship, she just needed to be listened to, empathized to. I feel the gratitude in her eyes and It makes my heart happy. I thank God that He made me see the goodness in her, made me look beyond her hard self.
I believe all of us have unique qualities and everyone-each one of us deserves to be happy and loved and needed. Not being needed is a feeling that can bring even a rock-solid person down. And we need to take care of the people around us. Just saying simple things like “Where were you, the other day we really missed you. We had this small party and without you, something felt a miss”. I have seen it happen; people change.
I have had it, my nature made me always liked and missed but I saw people felt jealous. I used to feel bad but then I learnt to handle it differently, I started giving the utmost importance to such people and BINGO!! It worked.
It feels miserable when you are compared to especially if a loved one it to you. Each one of us is different and there are different things that makes us happy. I may love partying but my partner or my own sister would love to sit with a book and light music. I may love jewelry but my friend may love being simple. I may love the make up but someone else may love the plain look. We can still survive together if we respect each other. So, If I get makeup and jewelry as a gift, it will make me happy but same gift might not make a good choice for my friend. In fact, I know people who do not like receiving gifts they liked to be surprised with sudden things that they like to do. Treat everyone differently and do things for the person ‘they are’ and not for that person YOU feel they are. Do things that will make them happy and not those that you feel will make them happy. Because otherwise the whole purpose of making them happy is lost

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